Respect....

Living in the 21^st century can be a hassle at times. Gone are the days of being approached by men in clubs instead women are harassed by other women. It is never appropriate for a man to spank my ass in public, thinking that I will be respond in a positive way. How much more damage is it when it is done by a woman? Being a lesbian does not permit you to do as you please when you are attracted to a certain girl.

I recently went out clubbing with a friend of mine and her butt chick was squeezed by this unusually looking guy. In shock we found out it is a woman.  My friend Sisanda confronted her and in denial all she could say, “I’m also a female why would I do that?” 

I am sure being part of a minority group sometimes is not nice but when we are in public, are we going to be scared and suspicious of every walking being around us? I certainly do not judge or discriminate against homosexuals whether you are gay, lesbian or bisexual but people in general should not feel uncomfortable when they around homosexuals. This kind of disrespect can promote more levels of hate crimes against homosexuals and we do not want that. There should be equal respect amongst people whether straight or homosexual so that we can all live in harmony.

YOUR VOTE, YOUR RIGHT!

Today 18^th May I participated in the municipal elections, the last time I voted was in 2009. After the results of 2009 came out, I thought to myself why on earth was I interested in politics. One of the questions the youth of South Africa individually ask themselves, till I listened to Zwelindzima Vavia last night. I learnt and appreciated that voting is a right, a right that many of our ancestors, fallen heroes fought for. They fought in the struggle of apartheid so that young women like me and you can be able to queue one day in a room full of white and black people waiting to exercise our rights as South African citizens. This year South Africa will be celebrating the 55^th anniversary of the women’s anti pass laws to the Union buildings in Pretoria. There were 20 000 women who marched to the union buildings, protesting against legislation control over black women in urban areas. They challenged the idea that a women’s place is in the kitchen instead of elsewhere. Today black women are successful business women; today we are students in highly recommended institutions. I quote Vavi, “Today women do not have to write letters to their husbands in the mines and say, Tata kabana siyalamba ekhaya. Those days are gone.”   Who knows, what would have happened if those women did not stand for their rights?  Helen Joseph, Lilian Ngoyi, Rahima Moosa, Ruth First among many other women went to the union buildings carrying babies on their backs, some were in fear and some were not just taking a stand for themselves but for you and me. This march did not just make a difference in South Africa but Im sure in other countries that discriminated against women. We today’s generation should be happy we live in a liberated South Africa. Free to vote, free to have an education, free to just swim in a beach, free from so many boundaries that were present in the apartheid era. Voting can be considered as a thank you to all those who died, struggled and were tortured.  The youth of today is too comfortable because they have never felt the pain and suffering. Thank you to those who voted and showed a sign of appreciation.

The change can only start with us or things will never be right...............



COVERED........

Being beautiful is defined as being attractive or pleasing. Being sexy is defined as attractive and exciting. The difference is just the two words pleasing and exciting. Women generally tend to translate the “exiting” to “nudeness” or “half naked”. Cover it ladies. Trying too hard to be beautiful can be one of the biggest mistakes one could make. I for one get excited by seeing natural beauty in a person meaning he or she is sexy. The society that we live in is obsessed with, plastic surgery, Botox, Brazilians butts, and the strands of cotton that celebrities wear. All around the world women are always trying to find the best diet or method to keep them looking younger, current and acceptable to society. Forgetting it is just not the  looks that attracts but personality, the way one carries herself and most of the time just being natural, being you, no additions and no subtractions.

It certainly does not take hanging out body parts to define sexiness. It is not the shortest skirt; the hanging cleavage etc. be covered and be beautiful. Sexiness is elegance, it can be silent and attractive, and being beautiful is enhancing your outer appearance and your mind. They say beauty lies within the eyes of the beholder. I say, when you feel good inside about yourself, you do not need approval from someone else. Am not saying people should not look after themselves. Yes, go to the gym, put your make up on but also believe that you are beautiful because a woman who appreciates herself is attractive. Be covered be beautiful.

The change can only start with us or things will never be right...............

.............Her

I sometimes imagine in my mind the facial expression my mother had the first time she saw me. Her face must have been filled with joy, excitement and fulfilment. It must have been one of the happiest days of her life. From day one mothers protect their children, they mould and nature their child to become the best they can be in life. Taking the example of hen, hens lay their eggs and protect them by sitting on top of them. This keeps the eggs warm till they hatch and protects the eggs from predators like snakes. When the eggs hatch the mother still takes good care of its little chicks and the hen makes sure nothing harms the little birds. This is a demonstration of a mother’s love and the bond one has with his/her mother. In IsiXhosa this is called “inimba”.  

I don’t know what I would do If I would lose my mother. I remember the first time I rode a mountain bike, it was my brother, I slipped on the bikes stool and the bicycles wheel scared my thigh. Now there was one person I could run and cry to “Mama”. I was still ten at the time, today so many things still scar me and I run to that same old mama.  It does not take much celebrating and cherishing the relationship you have with your mother. We should not only think about it on mother’s day but we 364 other days to do it. Celebrate your mother while you still young, while you both still alive, showing her how you love and appreciate her. Life strikes each and every person at some point in their lives but never alerts you when it comes.

Thank you God for blessing with a beautiful mother........ Sikelelwa Wababa-Putini

PERFECT CUT......

Full rounded, hourglass, inverted triangle, rectangular, and diamond shaped we all have our different body shapes and sizes. Weather your are gifted with round hips, an hourglass figure or a butt that would fit the description of Sarah Batman or a broad and flat one like mine. There will always be the perfect jean cut for you.

One of the most important steps to achieving your personal style is to wear clothes that actually fit your body. Step number two would be appreciating your body and knowing how to dress your body shape. It is very important to identify the type of fabrics that complement your body and the type of items that will suit your shape. Going for new trends is not the best thing to do at all time but going for something you could in five years to come. The idea is to always balance and be in proportion.

Some of the greatest designs in the world might not be for our African bodies but there is one thing you can never go wrong with, “A good pair of jean”. I personally believe denim is one of the best creations of the 18^th century. A good pair of jeans can give you that balance and it does cover cellulite. Remember it’s your shape and not your size. If ladies out there made a little effort when shopping to look for the perfect cut maybe there would be fewer women in taxis with “cracks” sticking out.

The change can only start with us or things will never be right...............

It’s ok to be alone.....

Sometimes it feels like Im in this alone “life” that is. Sometimes I cry myself to sleep and I search for the reason I cried the following morning, it never appears. Sometimes I indulge in junk food downing it with coke afterwards, with my headphones in my ears, listening to “How does it feel by D’angelo”. I watch myself and can actually see Im panicking, always with the fear of not having something to do, someone to talk to or a place to go. When I find myself not part of my peers or their activities I get bored and restless, feeling as though my self esteem has taken a hit. I become unhappy for no apparent reason.

When the week riches Wednesday I start planning the weekend ahead in my mind, I simply ask myself why God created hormones, emotion, and feeling.  Couldn’t he have spared some of us from the pain and just the thought of knowing you don’t have a life besides school or work?  What I and we all need to establish is the difference of being alone and being lonely.

I doubt there is any young person who wants to grow old and be a considered as a “grandparent” but we young people forget one thing. We are the lonely ones more than old people. We tend to think that without our peers there is no other life. Yes we are human and yes humans are social animals but one can always find happiness outside society. As long as you don’t try too hard or focus too much on one activity. It can be good thing to be alone but not good to be lonely. Where do you stand, are you alone or lonely?

Quote:

“We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone”. - Orson Welles

Negligence Puts Lives at Risk…………

After several allegations surrounding the Nelson Mandela Bay Health system, the Health Department has not pulled up its socks. The Bay’s Health system has been accused of preventable deaths, Communities being left in the lurch by under resourced.

 A fourth year Nursing Student who remains to be anonymous, who had practised in three of the Public Hospitals, Dora Nginza, Livingston and Provincial. The fourth year student revealed the carelessness of the department of health. She emphasised on how it is difficult to work especially during the evening shift which is from four to seven o’clock in the morning because of the shortage of staff.

 She pointed out the high shortage of essential equipment like linen which is supposed to be changed twice a day. “The treatment of the patients differs from hospital to hospital, not all of the Public Hospitals can account for the negligence of one hospital”, she says.  Salaries don’t seem to be enough for the amount of work they do but the Department insisted on a 63% of their budget goes to salaries. Question is which salaries are these because there are not enough workers. Vuyokazi Sifatyi mother of Sipho Sifatyi age ten accompanied her son to do an eye test at the eye clinic at Provincial. Sifatyi was pleased with the service she received at the clinic even it was very slow. Sifatyi remarked on the unnecessary time spent at the hospital, “I woke up in the early hour of this morning and arrived here at the clinic at about 7am. I only received proper service only a full three hours after my arrival”, she says. Ms Sifatyi was not the only patient who complained about the time arrangement for the clinics at Provincial Hospital.

 A couple of pregnant women who remain to be anonymous say they are expected to arrive at the clinic at 7am sharp in the morning, anyone who arrives a minute later is turned back to go home. Patients are being turned away but you will find by two o’clock in the afternoon there is no staff left at the clinic.

This kind of behaviour is a total inconvenience for the community of Port Elizabeth. Questions come up in residents minds what if someone is in labour during the afternoon and there is no staff to assist. This shows the irresponsibility of Nelson Mandela Bay Public Hospitals, the negligence of the staff is putting many lives at risk.

The change can only start with us or things will never be right...............