Mixed Tape………

Mixed Tape………

Almost everywhere we go these days we encounter a mixed race couple. This is usually among young couples: at grocery stores, church, malls even here at varsity. And while for many years a black and white couple would have been rare because oppression or apartheid era.

Gone are the day’s apartheid yet some of our “black sisters” feel so threatened and betrayed when they see a “black brother” with white woman. Instead embracing the beauty of our rainbow nation, black women believe white women are with black men because of their sexual ability or he is with her because she represents the “forbidden fruits”. Ha-ha…… just had to lough for a moment, what forbidden fruit is this? In the eyes of God we are the same and no race or sexuality holds a higher position than the other.

It is also the same black women who don’t question their fellow sisters in dating white man for all the wrong reasons. The “sisters” come up with so many excuses that white man are loving, mature and can afford the type of life style they want to maintain and most black men are lazy and can’t keep jobs. These are such big accusations to generalize all black men under. Who said black men do not love? They say they find it difficult to meet black men on their social and income level. Dating outside ones culture is definitely difficult, and it’s much safer to date in your own cultural or social group. Let us just say I love me some” brown sugar”, it’s just a preference.

People who tend to fall in love outside their culture are sometime rejected by their family and friends. As much the couple will be happily in love studies from the University of Pennsylvania that says, “While interracial relationships are on the rise, they are significantly less likely than same-race relationships to lead to marriage. Researchers have long believed that preferences for contact outside a person’s race become more restrictive as relationships become more intimate”.

This is particularly true of marriage, which requires a public acknowledgment of the partnership, a lifelong commitment, and pooling of social groups, the report found…“There’s been a definite shift in society where dating is a more recreational activity, whereas it used to be a function of finding a marriage partner,” Albers said. That shift has loosened up the social restrictions and allowed people to date people outside their race they may have no intention of marrying, she said. Now what would be the use of dating someone while I would not have any intension of marrying them? It is a complete waste of time and energy for both parties involved.

These studies are not 100% correct there are other people who prefer dating outside their race with the intension of getting married. Some have successful marriages but meet up with problems when their children are questioned about their black and white parents. It is a challenge for the most of us, to look beyond the stereotypes surrounding interracial relationships. Now that is an obstacle we all need to get over, accepting people for who they are and accept the people they want to spend the rest of their lives with.

The change can only start with us or things will never be right...............